The festive season is always such an emotionally charged time of year. On one hand you can have positive vibes of love and gratitude and on the other you can face loneliness, fear and unresolved internal or external conflict.
For many years the festive season has been a time of great loss and sadness for me. Although I have the stoic “stiff upper” lip thing down pat, it is still hard…..no matter how much light I seem to focus on a situation.
I still find it tough to keep my feelings of loneliness, lack and self-worth from coming to the surface and being completely overwhelmed at this time of year…….it’s a work in progress for me.
So I am going to share three tips to keep you balanced and empowered to survive any situation this festive season whether you have overloaded on the “monkey mind” inner voice chatter or the relo’s from hell turning up.
There is so much pressure at this time of year to get on with everyone and to spend excessive amounts of money on things for people you may have only seen a few times in the last year and it’s likely you won’t see them much in 2017.
I have also noticed that time seems to go into hyper-speed. You never have enough time to get the shopping done, presents wrapped & to prepare the banquet that only Henry VIII would have been happy with.
We also lose our ability to make healthy choices…..It goes right out the window!
That inner voice in our head knows that it’s the season to be joyful. The inner voice is extremely good at persuading us to have another mice pie, extra glass of bubbles or some more cheese.
It kinda goes like this “I’ll loose the few extra pounds as one of my New Year resolutions” & “Its Christmas, an extra glass of wine won’t hurt” or “I’ll go on a detox or add extra yoga classes in the New Year”
So where has all the magic gone?
We as humans long to belong, we long to give love and be part of something that fills us up and brings us joy. One of our core soul needs is to contribute, this is manifested in our desire to serve those around us and to give rather than simply receive.
But this needs to be balanced in order for your soul to feel complete and whole, many of us at this time of year give but we are not open to receiving…..either we fall victim to our own belief system that we are not worthy of receiving, not good enough or we are so desperately trying to be loved that we will not allow ourselves to receive love & joy as we are distracted by giving too much out and not allowing anything in.
This takes away the opportunity for someone to have the chance to experience the gift of giving and so the merry-go-round keeps turning & collecting more of us as it goes.
Contribution is about sharing what we have with others. Everything in the universe contributes beyond itself. When you are focusing on serving beyond yourself most of our problems just drifted away.
Through contribution of our energy, time and attention we feel love, joy and completion. We extend who we really are.
I have tried and tested these three strategies I am about to share with you, I have also aligned these with key universal laws of cause and effect so you can’t go wrong.
1 Give something with no expectation of having something in return. This could be a coffee at the coffee shop, placing a bunch of flowers at the door of your next door neighbour…….find someone and be benevolent.
2 Move!! By moving whether it’s a surf, a swim in the ocean, yoga or a walk in the park your metabolism will kick in and your body will function better & thank you for it. You’ll have less “monkey mind” inner voice chatter and you’ll keep your central nervous system in check……Its important for you to take the time out and breathe.
3 You are the sum total of your environment. We feel forced to maybe hangout with people we wouldn’t normally hangout with over the festive season. So just breathe and workout what kind of environment you would like to experience and try to use the 20/80 rule with the people you want to enjoy and play with. It’s OK to make your polite excuses and leave to spend the 80% of time with the people you really want to be with.
And the bonus point is: Stay true to your core values and allow judgement and criticism to pass you by, remembering to just breathe and stay true to yourself.
So with all my heart I wish you and your loved ones a Merry Christmas.
Look out for my next post on manifesting big in 2017.
Where ever you are on this beautiful planet of ours I am sending you love and look forward to meeting you one day soon.